“So you love your wife with a sacrificial love.  You love your wife with a purifying love.  You love your wife with a caring love that nourishes her and cherishes her.  You love your wife with an unbreakable love that just keeps forgiving and forgiving and forgiving and forgiving.  Can a man cast off his wife?  I can answer that question with a question.  Can Christ cast off His church? …

It isn’t that tough to understand this.  But you can’t fulfill it apart from being Spirit filled.  You have to go all the way back, don’t you, back all the way in this text to verse 18, filled with the Spirit, a heart filled with song and joy, thankful for everything, an attitude of submission.  You see, where the Spirit of God is in control, this can come to pass.  The commitment of two people to be controlled by the Holy Spirit, filled with worship and thanks, devoted to submitting to each other in humble love – I’ll tell you, that’ll bring romance.  That’ll put springtime in a marriage and it’ll keep it there. “ John MacArthur “Pattern For Husbands” (Ephesians 5:18-33)

As a lily among brambles, so is my love among the young women. (Song of Solomon 2:2, ESV)

My beloved speaks and says to me: “Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away, for behold, the winter is past; the rain is over and gone. The flowers appear on the earth, the time of singing has come, and the voice of the turtledove is heard in our land.

The fig tree ripens its figs, and the vines are in blossom; they give forth fragrance. Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come away. O my dove, in the clefts of the rock, in the crannies of the cliff, let me see your face, let me hear your voice, for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. (Song of Solomon 2:10-14, ESV)

You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you. (Song of Solomon 4:7, ESV)

You have captivated my heart, my sister, my bride; you have captivated my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace. How beautiful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much better is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your oils than any spice! Your lips drip nectar, my bride; honey and milk are under your tongue; the fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon. (Song of Solomon 4:9-11, ESV)

Turn away your eyes from me, for they overwhelm me… (Song of Solomon 6:5, ESV)

We renewed our vows on Valentines Day years ago- I was a little grumpy about being there, but I remember the way she looked up at me, her eyes pouring out that glory-love, His very essence, that God put in each of us for our marriage, shimmering starshine that melted me. I see those eyes whenever I close mine.

Oh, loving Father- in Jesus’ Name, send healing, humility, and grace to these beloved, Your children. Bless them with submissive hearts, show them the love in them is not theirs but YOURS, Your essence granted them to bestow on each other in this marriage YOU crafted for them. Wipe away bitterness and resentment and instead purify and magnify that glory love in them both, that it will overflow each heart through their shared soul, and burn brightly together- burn away hurts and warm them once more to the joys of living for the other.

Amen